Thanks for all the sharing. It is so nice to know that there are normal moms out there with healthy and realistic body image.

But i still haven’t quite gotten the answer to my true question, which is are pregnancy worries the second time around any different from the first? When i mentioned weight worries, i meant that i know it is usually more an issue for the first kid. You have all confirmed it! Having had 2 and even 5 kids, i can see weight isn’t an issue at all anymore! (so comforting)

But what about finances, housework? Do these things become areas of contention more than the first time? Ya, men can be elated to have 10 kids, but are they as helpful to massage your feet and back as they did when you carried their firstborn? What is the general experience on this? I know men are not all the same, but generally - i have lived long enough with one and chatted enough with women from other marriages to know that they can be quite similar across the board in many areas. It’s so freaky to agree for a second one and then have him suddenly get too busy at work to help as much as you thought he would… more than one mom i know is wondering how to have a second one when their hubbies can’t seem to get their act together even for the first one!

CELYA