Maybe I have gone off topic a little. There really is such a condition as pregnancy blues or pre-natal depression. It is a medical condition and if it is severe, I guess the pregnant mom ought to bring this matter to her ob-gyn attention. In this situation, the world around her is still ‘normal’ but the hormones upset made her think and feel otherwise.

However, there can also be situations where the matter is not related to the pregnancy but probably the problems exist with or without baby/pregnancy. In this case, I guess MMB hasn’t come to the level of marriage counselling yet.
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Lilian

About the question on whether husbands get less loving with each child, I would say that it has to do with that woman’s self-esteem. Even if she is still 36, 24, 36, (inches lar, not age) she will still have her doubts if she choose to think that she is not measuring up to her husband/friends/publics expectation. For women like these, nothing can help them except themselves. Not Marie France, not botox, not plastic surgery. Do you all get sick of reading those Speaking Up/Dear Thelma letters that say, I am fat, I am black, I am short…….?’ If I am the person answering, I will tell them -even if God gives you thinner body/fairer skin/ taller (whatever they wish for), they will still find something they are not satisfied with.

Sorry, got a bit carried away with self-esteem stuff. Want to know how men feel about getting more and more kids? Read Today’s Parents June issue. I enjoyed knowing what En. Idris feels (his original interview reply was much, much longer) about getting more kids. My conclusion is – men enjoy having lots of kids! Even my very reluctant husband (whom prefer only one kid) dreams of having lots of grandchildren in future!
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Lilian

We should practice a healthy lifestyle so that we can live a long healthy productive life. It should not be done to please someone else. It is actually not very difficult to maintain a healthy weight as long you care for yourself. What you eat is very important. If you care for your body & mind, you should consume healthy food. This should go hand in hand with REGULAR exercise. Eat everything moderately.

I lost 40lbs in 1 1/2 yrs thru healthy eating & exercise. Manage to do it while bf my 2nd boy (bf him without formula for 2 1/2 yrs). We should not go into fad diets as you will not be able to maintain the weight loss for long. I am still maintaining my target weight for 2 yrs now. Since losing the weight I am healthier, have more energy with my boys & my outlook in life has certainly changed for the better.

-Sheela