Our Malaysian genial and polite manners sometime make us reluctant to ask too many questions from people we deemed more superior than us, in this case, someone who knows more about our child’s health. Some paediatricians have chided me when I make demands for certain medication, test or treatment because in their wise opinions, it is unnecessary. However, as a mother who is genuinely worried and concerned about my child well-being, I usually insist for very detailed and satisfactory explanations before I will agree with their opinion. Then again, many first time mothers have told me how their doctors have brusquely brushed off their anxieties as over-reacting. Or a doctor who conveniently tells my friend who has an ADHD child that he will outgrow his condition without offering her the necessary support in dealing with a hyperactive son like a referral to a specialist dealing with this condition.

A good patient/doctor relationship should have no barriers where asking questions and voicing concerns are related. If you are not truly satisfied with the doctor’s decision or explanation, never be bashful to ask him/her for referral to other specialist in another field. Sometimes, doctors communicate in medical jargons, which if interpreted wrongly can cause unnecessary fears and worries. Therefore, repeat your understandings to your doctor in your own words and see if it concurs with what was explained.

A mother is most concerned about her child. Throughout the childhood years, there are bound to be a few inevitable trips to the doctor’s office. Therefore, it is wise to see that your child’s medical caregiver is someone whom you trust and can rely on.