I am an adoptive breastfeeding mother. When I wanted to bf my babies it was for these reasons:

1. McB is the best milk for my babies. I want the best for them.
2. Religion, I want to make my babies mahram (which means it is not a sin for me & my family to be in contact with them when they reach adulthood)
3. Bonding

It was hard work mind you and I raised a lot of eyebrows. However support from my family & lactation counselor helped a lot. Not to mention all the sistas in this group. I like that word Sh. Other than that it was and still is a lonely journey. I don’t have an abundant of BM like all moms do but for me every drop counts. I do have to complement with formula due to this situation. There are some adptv moms who don’t. I guess I am not as lucky as some of them. So sistas, it boils down to your choice, passion and who benefits from this experience.

(ID – an adoptive breastfeeding mom)
I think it’s not evading - it’s the ‘tidak apa’ attitude. Breastfeeding requires passion and these people don’t have it. Many moms I know don’t breastfeed bcos

1) too ‘troublesome’
2) not enough milk (resulting from not feeding through the nite)
3) dunno how to

A lot of their problems can be solved by reading up or signing onto a forum such as this. But will they ? No! They don’t bother to. (and we are talking about well-educated people with access to books and computers) How to change attitude like that ? Then again, I believe that a big deterrent is the employer and the issues of pumping while working.
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S-Y