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Getting an older child to deal with new baby
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I am expecting my second baby
in about three months and I’m worried about how it will affect
my 16 months daughter. I've
seen some of my friends even my sister have had a difficult time
dealing with their child’s jealousy when the new baby arrives.
Just recently, I started to work again as one way to get her used
to the idea of not having me around all day long. But I'm still
worried of how she will react when the new baby arrives. Even now,
she would take out all the new baby clothes and stuff out of our
bedroom. Is this the early sign of jealousy?
So, how can I get my daughter
ready for the changes in our family? Any tips or advices are definitely
appreciated.
Thanks!!
Nervous mom,
Hi Iza,
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I'm
Nicky, a working mother to Jiann Yang, who's almost 21 months old
now. I'm expecting baby #2 this end April. Like you, I really don't
know how JY will react when mei-mei (little sis) arrives later. Last
weekend, I set up the baby cot...put new mattress cover, the mosquitoe
netting, etc... and he wanted me to carry him inside. He would pretend
to sleep in it and giggle happily. And NOW, he wants to climb in and
just stay in there. How ah, if the baby's sleeping inside and he insists
to be inside there also. So far, he will sayang & kiss my big
tummy gently and I will tell him that mei-mei is in there. I hope
he will also be that gentle with the newborn later.
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Mama to Jiann Yang (07/07/2002) and expecting 2nd baby, 25/04/04.
Every little blessing we have is worth its weight in gold.
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just gave birth to my baby girl 22 days ago. What I did was, get my
4 yrs old son involved in everything (if possible), from applying
cream on my tummy, pretend that when my son tickle my tummy, the baby
inside the tummy will move and I told him that mei mei love to play
with him. Tell him (about 1mth b4) when I'm on maternity, he need
to be more independant so that he can protect mei mei and mummy. Let
my son pick new cloths, milk bottle, pillow .... for my daughter.
Let him feel that there is a 'life' inside my stomach. Ask him sing
song for the new member. I even show him the 'Pregnancy Guide' show
him the stages of the baby, explain to him how big baby is and the
development.
After
delivery, my hb take full attention to him. Everyday after his nursery,
bath and dinner, he will come to my room to stay with his sister.
i let him go near to the baby, kiss her, hug her and even let him
use the digital camera to snap her mei mei photos.... he enjoy very
much. I let him see how I bf my little one and explain to him what
is inside my breast.
Hope it helps you too.
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Lay See, Mama to Heng Kai (Dec, 99) and ErnNing (Mar, 2004)
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was quite worried about this when I was preg. with my second child.
She was 2 years old when the new baby arrived. I had talked a lot
about babies with her, showing her photos and baby stuffs even before
I gave birth. I even brought her along to my medical check-ups and
showed her the ultrasound scans.
I was so nervous when it was the time to introduce her to her lil'
sister. But all I can see was just love and care from the first time
they met till now. Off course she can be rough sometimes but I know
she meant well. Anyway, sometimes she "fights" to get my
McB first (I'm tandem nursing both) but it is more like a game. If
she gets it first, she just giggles but if baby is crying for her
feed, I just tell her that baby need me first. She seems to understands
that.
I also let her participate in taking care of the baby...now I have
a helping hand, she just love getting the diaper when it is changing
time. She also helps during bath time. Following some advices in this
forum, I also make sure that I or we (me and hubby) spend some time
alone only with her. If the weather permits I take her to the park
for a walk after work and hubby reads to her at nights.
Ros
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mommies.... I just
couldn't wait to see how my Alia would react to her baby sister.
As for now, I tried taking her to see her baby cousin every now
and then...And so far, I've seen no sign of extreme jealousy or
anything...
But as a preparation, I'm getting
her a new baby doll set complete with her own diapers and milk bottle...so
maybe she can tend to her own baby while I'll be busy with the new
baby...
iza
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