“Everyone hates Billy Wolfe” - a case of dealing with school bullies
Mar 27th, 2008 by Lilian
I read about this case where the parent of the boy being bullied hit back the bullies by suing them. I had dedicated a whole category on school bullies on this blog because it is very sad to see school kids being bullied in schools. As a parent, I do not wish to see any kids getting bullied and I hope to bring more awareness on this issue.
Billy Wolfe is a boy whom was the target of bullies from elementary school.
With his mom, Penney Wolfe, at his side, the Fayetteville, Ark., student watched as videos played. One shows a bully jumping him on the school bus and slamming his head against the window. Another, taken by a bully’s accomplice, shows a kid getting out of a car at Billy’s bus stop, walking purposefully up to him, and slugging him in the face.
(MSNBC)
I hope none of our children were ever in this dilemma. As a parent, I also make sure that my children knows what to do in the event that they witnessed a friend getting bullied. In this modern age, parenting is no longer making sure our kids are fed and clothe. We have to arm them with all these situations and teach and guide them on what to expect and how to manage it. Sad, isn’t it?
It is very sad, and angers me that parents of the bullies seem to dismiss their kids behavior as kids being kids. No its not. Its a brat who will grow up thinking he’s superior when in fact he’s the one people will resent and will be put in his place eventually. They are insecure kids who need to pick on others to show they’re cool, because inside they are nothing.
And people wonder why we have school shootings??? I mean, come on. People can only take so much. Everything a bully gets, a bully deserves. Period.
I hope Penney Wolfe wins this lawsuit. She is totally within her right to do this and I say go for it! I want to make it very clear who I’m rooting for on this one..The parents of these evil children need to learn the hard way that they will pay one way or the other for being irresponsible and for raising their children to be inconsiderate despicable jerks. I also think it’s pretty rotten that school officials will do nothing to protect kids from harm..In fact, much of the time the teachers and school officials who have the power to help out and to DO SOMETHING would rather “be liked by the evil bullies” than to stand up for the lone victim. How evil and low is that? Grow some balls people.
1. Fighting The “Gang Mentality”
I bet the bullies that actually fight with Billy are actually being manipulated by their friends. This is how it works: the ring leader decides to demonstrate his power by manipulating his or her minions to harass a seemingly vulnerable student. The ring leader says “so-and so is x, y and Z”. If you minions want to be in my click you must punish so an so. Off the minions go to execute their masters bidding. Of course, the master (alpha male or female) does not use such direct language - his or her instructions are subtle, but well understood. Often the ring leader avoids punishment because they are smart enough to avoid direct involvement. Instead they sit back and enjoy the show - manipulating their simple minded minions and indirectly bulling those that they cannot affectively control.
Please do not encourage the victim to fight. The result can easily be devastating. Encourage the victim to use the law. Fights can go bad wrong. Lost teeth, death fro traumatic head injury, choking deaths, eye damage. The victim may not be willing to lose and may choke, stab, shoot, hit with object ect…. the aggressor may be really mean - and or stupid- he could do any of the above. Often the aggressor is just some manipulated person that the real bully is using as a proxy
My fights didn’t end too bad - A good undercut cracked my molar - and the magnetic CB antenna base plate I was holding severely injured and attacker - he came close to death. He was a good person manipulated by rotten idiots - what if I killed him?? I like my teeth and would have liked to skip the gold crown. My hands are still scared from the teeth and bone of the many attackers I have been forced to fight. And yes, I have run from many fights also. I am proud to say I have never fought some who did not first attack me. I have learned through the years and I am now better able to stay away from dangerous people. Being out of school helps because it is hard to stay away from them when you are in the same school.
Martial arts are great, but you don’t have to study them long to figure out how to kill someone - man it’s strange but 8 out of 10 fights I have been in were with some dummy that didn’t even realize he was fighting for someone else. Do you really want to kill someone like this? I don’t want to spend 20 years in jail or hurt someone. You don’t want your son or daughter going to reform school - I hear the fighting there is worse. And, they will likely meet some bad apples.
The school system needs to be trained to circumvent the sub grouping that is taking place at this undisciplined school. The school is obviously slandering the victim. Blame the victim - is the best tactic to use - it’s great when you can convince your parents and teachers that your violent behavior is ok. And guess what - allot of the uninvolved students concur that Billy is the problem. But, the truth is - they may actually be the behind the scene manipulator. Some of the students are saying “ I just avoid Bill”. That’s great so half the kids are physically and verbally torturing Billy and the other half are isolating him socially. May as well shot him in the head. Look Dummies be nice to Billy show him by example how to act. Help him make friends. Show some compassion.
There is this great saying in this old book I looked in once. Goes something like “ Treat others as you would like to be treated” – I find when I am able to do this I sleep better. I’m not real good at it, but I am going to try to do better.
This is a criminal act and this kid who gets beat up on a regular bases should have all his aggressors prosecuted to the fullest extent of the law then once they are found guilty them sue the hell out of them. Bullying is now a criminal act in many States if not all of them I say,even the principal should be prosecuted for failing to protect this kid.
This is the prime example why there has been so many Columbines, I wouldn’t be surprised if this kid does the same thing. If he did then he shouldn’t be prosecuted either. Everybody has their limits as to how far you can push someone over the edge. This kid has been pushed beyond that limit