Hiya Moomies,
Started Abilash with the night training yesterday as wanted to finish his last diaper (stopped using diapers when he was 1 + yrs during the day) . He has been saying that he doesn’t want to use it for some months now as he says “I’m already big”. Mummy is actually the lazy one to start the ball rolling . Since he goes to bed @ 8pm, I carry him to the loo b4 DH & I go to be @ 11 something pm so don’t have to wake again in the middle of the time. So far so good.
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Sheela SAHM
hi ladies, guess what? I got bonus (not poo-poo on my body lah)–
last Sat Isabelle came into the study while I’m busy on the net, she pat on my lap, I look at her, she pat her backside and made a sound:”nng, nng.” I asked her poo-poo ah? she nod. quickly bring her to the loo, put her on the bowl, she point to the books near the wall:”shu, shu (book in mandarin).” then “flower, flower.” to the ashtray, I entertain her for a while and look into the bowl, done! I took her down wipe her and wash, then gave her a big clap said she is so clever, she very happy. Today annabelle did the same thing, but once I put her to the bowl, she felt so uncomfortable, want to get down, because she so boney, and the sit got no cushion, I can imagine how uncomfortable it was for her. so unexpected, just been nag by my mom few days ago, Isabelle got pity with mommy being nag I guess . anyway I can find those seat with cushion? not so expensive one lah.
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Maria (mother of twin girls–Isabelle & Annabelle, born 25th Nov 2002)
Maria, my Kelly is just like your Isabelle. She’s got to have a book in her hands whenever she’s on her throne. Sometimes, when she urgently wants to go, she will run to take her potty, put it down with a thump, pull down her shorts clumsily and hurriedly, and screams, “booookk!!! boook ah !!!” As if the book will run to her! … Sometimes she’s so urgent that the potty will fall sideway as she tries to sit on it! She always wait till she cannot tahan before taking the potty! Ailian, how old is Karina? I put Kelly on diapers only at night. Somedays she wakes up dry, some days not.
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Moommy to two little ladies (2yrs11mths & 12mths)

I used to set my alarm @ 3am so that I can wake Abhijay up to take him to pee. I find that with boys they tend to have accidents even when they r older. Abhijay still has his accidents every now & then. Since he sleeps in his own room & I tell him to wash & change himself (I keep a set of his PJ near his bed). If the bed is wet I told him to go & sleep in the guest room. I don’t want him to come & disturb the others who r sleeping as I have to wake up @ 4.45am.

Good Luck!
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Sheela SAHM
I let it come naturally with Nico, i.e., he wore diapers to bed even though he stayed dry thru the night, and I let him tell me when he was ready to go without diapers. That happened when he was about 3. The minor accidents he’s had can be counted in one hand and he usually knows how to wake to go to the toilet when necessary, usually that happens when he’s downed a lot of water right before going to bed.
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Cheers,
Karen, mum to Nicodemus (2/1998) and Ethan (6/2002)

With my kids, I have the ‘magic sarong’. They wear pampers till an age when they can put it on themselves and until the tape no longer stick (and we use masking tape) ‘cos the diaper is just a security for them. I think it is about 4-5 years old. BTW, girls learnt faster than boys where toilet-training is concerned. Divert a little - toilet-trained is not the same as timing-trained. I will never grill and drill my kids to be ‘accident free’ and but prefer to slave myself with the puddle of water or the glob on the diaper. Kids then have one less stress to deal with. And moms won’t get so many wrinkles, either.

Ok, by a certain age, there is no fixed age, I suppose ‘cos different kids have different habits, they will go on for many, many nights without wetting a diaper and yet, they insist on wearing it. It is not a nice thing to wake up in the middle of the night getting all wet, so they are rather careful to avoid that. Then I will move on to the magic sarong. It is actually a child’s size kain pelikat (the Malay man sarong) I bought from Trengganu. I told them if they wear the sarong over their PJs, like papa, then they will not wee-wee. And yup, they believe that and then graduated from pampers.

I think bedwetting is a sign of stress and sometime, having drunk too much before bedtime also. I personally have nightmares during pregnancies when I can’t find a toilet, or the toilet door won’t lock, or the toilet too dirty and I will be searching and searching for a toilet. Oh,how I hate those dreams! Luckily, I never find a nice toilet or I would pee in my sleep too!

Conclusion - live with the wee and the pee and don’t stress oneself too much over it and especially don’t make it an issue with small kids and toddlers. After all, how much does one piece of disposable diaper cost? Only less than 50 sen.
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Lilian (co-owner, moderator and mom of 5)

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The books says a child can only control his bladder muscles when he reach 18 months.

If we try too early, we are only stressing the child unecessary and also stressing ourselves out. We will make the child feel like a failure if he accidentally wets himself. Remember, his brain can only control that part of the muscle when he reaches 18 months old. So, any earlier attempts to get them to wee-wee or poo-poo are just like striking lottery, consolation prize. Not toilet trained but timing trained. (Lilian, mom of 5)

I have been training Lavin to go to the toilet .. like the rest she too refuses to sit on the potty to do her business … Anyway realised that when I don’t put on a nappy she seems to tell me that she is going to pee by holding her panty .. so we quickly rush to the toilet and let her pee … no coming out until she does it .. it seems to be working so far … Not sure if that one way but my maid tells me that how she trained her daughter .. so i decided why not give it a try .. u never know …
sathiya
I used to give them toys & books so that they r occupied & will sit still on the throne. Don’t know whether I have started a bad habit as Abhijay now takes his colour pencils, drawing paper (has to put all this on a small chair beside the throne), gameboys. He can sit there for a whole hour & when I ask him “finish ah?”. He reply sometimes would be “don’t know , Amma” (he is so occupied he doesn’t know whether he had done it or not)

Sheela
Hehe…happy lar…my mom told me yesterday that Jiann Yang was half way playing with something when he suddenly ran to the toilet and kept pointing at the potty which was placed there. So mom took off his pants and diaper and he actually poo-poo a short while later. So amazing ler… first time he did that and we were all so happy that he finally reached this milestone..ha ha ha !!!

Mama to Jiann Yang (07/07/2002) and Jia Ee (15/04/2004)