Confinement practice/post-natal rituals

I did not confine myself through the traditional 30 days (for Chinese). In fact, I went out to do some groceries 12 days post natal, wearing only T-shirt and short. And I showered my hair 3 days post natal. Actually this is not a proud thing to do because I experienced severe migraine which I have never experienced before. I have to take ponstan (pain killer) and MIL claimed that my head “masuk angin” because of the shower. And now, I can’t wear high heel because both of my calves would feel very “sour”.

Of course, I have heard of so many of my friends who have never practised the traditional confinement and yet they are so sihat and kuat!! Guess each individual would react differently, huh?!

What I am thinking now is I should have strictly followed the confinement “rules & regulations”. Better to “suffer” now than to be sorry later in life.

Yek Nee.

Vaginal birth after caeserean section (VBAC) – Part 3

Back in time, 14 yrs ago in 1990, I had recognised the word meconium and kaput (bump in the baby head due to him pushing, not kaput as the Malaysians reference to death). The moment I heard these two words from the midwife reporting to the ob-gyn, I told my ob-gyn to cut me ASAP. He held my hands, look into my eyes and say ‘Oh Lilian, you are so brave!’ I think this is the very reason ob-gyns prefer to stick to the safer side of cutting rather than waiting, to save their butt from lawsuits. And 2 years later in 1992, while I was trying for VBAC, he did the same hand-holding thingy and probably that’s how the VBAC is successful.

Oops, you can’t find my ob-gyn anywhere in Malaysia ‘cos he is an American missionary doctor who travels the world, serving God. BTW I named my eldest son, Jeffrey after him!

I’ve just been reading through and my gosh – how ignorant am i! I had an emergency c-section, but i think it was valid anyway – dds heartbeat was going down fast . I mean, my doc waited for me to dilate and didn’t even suggest the c-section, but i was induced and between 5 am to 3 pm – i had zero intake of food or water. I just read another mom saying you can bring sandwiches as a light snack or drink lucozade while waiting for active labour. Really??
They allow that here? I ended up having really low blood sugar and could not even hold my girl when she was born – i was shaking uncontrollably for at least 4-5 hours after the birth.

I do want to try for VBAC for my next one (i have to conceive the second one first – but that’s another story) and i guess i should get updated about what’s possible and what’s not possible here to avoid the same disappointment as the first time(due to my big fat ignorance).


Weaning and follow-up milk

There’s no milk like mother’s milk! Breastmilk is the best milk for newborns and it should be the exclusive food until they reach six months old. Exclusive means ideally there is no other milk or food sources. During weaning period (from 6 months onwards), babies will start taking solid foods as being recommended by the nutrition experts.

Breastfeeding can be continued till your kid reaches one year old and beyond. Some of my friends even breastfed till their kids reached three years old. However, most moms find it hard to express their milk during work and, therefore they are unable to provide solely breastmilk to their toddlers. Some children are natural milk lovers.

My little boy is now five years old and he was exclusively breastfed for about eight months old. After that, I weaned him on follow-up milk. He just loves his milk and cannot sleep without a bottle of warm milk before nap and bedtime.

So, the big question is which milk should we offer to our little toddlers? There are so many alphabets, funny names and all kinds of flavours to choose from. It is sometimes hard for us to decide because we want the best for our children.

Recently, my friend got me a tin of Friso Gold 4 new hygiene pack (suitable for my boy who is above four years old) since he knows that my little boy is one of the most blogged-about boy on the Malaysia’s blogosphere. Incidentally, I already bought a tin earlier when I saw the advertisement appearing on my blog.

I did a quick check and like their special hygiene pack and ingredients such as prebiotics and probiotics. My boy is very actively exploring in the park and garden. He is now mixing with other children of his age and getting the germs and bugs are inevitable.

According to Friso’s website,

Friso Gold is enhanced with Frisoshield™ for more goodness. It contains a nutritious combination of prebiotics (FOS), probiotics (L. reuteri), nucleotides, selenium and mixed carotenes. Friso Gold also has DHA, AA and SA for your child’s overall development.

My little boy loves the flavour of the milk so much! He said it tastes like the warm vanilla that I get for him at coffee joints. I am already into the second tin, just after more than a week because he wanted several bottles a day.

I figure out…..he won’t be asking for milk for much longer as most children will outgrow their liking for milk once they are older. So I better give him all the goodness and nutrients he demands now. He leads a very active lifestyle full of swimming, running in the park, playing badminton with my husband and practically on full turbo charged the whole day.

So, if you are wondering which milk to get for your child, think of the nice taste of warm vanilla which contains the necessary goodness that protects our child. My little boy certainly knows how to enjoy life.

There are various stages of the milk for children above one year old. Do look for the right lable and find one suitable for your child’s age.