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Jul 15

I have never had a problem BF in public, be it in the bird park, in BSC , in reject shop while browsing or wherever. Very thick skin about this.
My clothing is usually loose without buttons so that they can be easily lifted. T shirts are the best. Never bought any expensive bra, whatever brand is ok with me as long as it gives you good support, good enough.

Shamira

He He! I bf in public for the first time yesterday. What a breakthrough. Usually only do it in the car. So yesterday at the Starbucks in Times Square, I did it!. They have an upstairs area with sofas and its quite nice and quiet.

Was wearing a tight fitting top with a big button down shirt over it so was really well concealed. Try it, certainly works for me.

Yippie.

Doreen

btw, another place moomies may want to think about: Fitting rooms ! We’ve done quite a bit of this one, but only when there is no one waiting outside of course.. megasale time probably not a good time huh?

audrey
If I am out seeing any of you moomies bf-ing while sitting on a bench, I would probably sit next to you and bf my baby too. Meanwhile, I haven’t made such an encounter and frankly, I admire your guts, cos’ I really don’t have the courage to bf in public, though I know there’s nothing embarrassing about the act. I just can’t lor. I feel very self-conscious, shy. Can’t help feeling that way. I would always go to the baby’s room in Jusco, Parkson, and other shopping complexes. At least reading your posts have given me some idea on how to feed discreetly, i.e. by hanging a cloth over the shoulder. But my baby will definitely pull the cloth down since it will be covering her view…

Moommy to two little princess

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Jul 13

Oh well, what’s a little sacrifice in convenience and dignity (!) when you have a wonderful, healthy darling baby ! Don’t worry, you’ll develop thick skin just like the rest of us! (Kat)
Reading thru’ all your experience of bf in public, it reminds me of the first time that I bf and it happens in public too. You see, that time I’ve just given birth. A lot of relatives was waiting to see me and the baby. When the nurse asked me to bf, I told the male relative meaning FIL and BILs that baby needs to be feed. First time, mah, so shy to even said the word “Breast Feed” . They just smile and nod their head. So, I repeat , I want to feed the baby. They told me to go ahead. Got mad, I just pull up my hospital gown , expose my whole upper body part, get DH to clean my Mcb and start to feed right there and then! They got shocked and I can actually see their jaws dropped! No kidding! (J)

I am one who is shy to breastfeed in public. Come from rather conservative background lah. First preferred option is baby room – love Jusco (though it is really packed nowadays and got queue to get in). Otherwise, I would put the EBM in bottle and bottle-feed baby EBM in public.

However, I think one’s skin gets thicker as time gets by and it’s also out of necessity. The other day had no EBM on me, baby’s dinner time, so sat at corner table in not-really-packed restaurant and breastfed in public for first time. I will still try and avoid it though.

SY

As for me, i feel more comfortable to do public nursing when my DH is around with me, but without him i have to do it anyway. Most of the time, i found it’s him that was more concern about my McB got exposed than myself As i thought i shouldn’t be too concern over what people think or how they stare, DH was the one that always trying to block me, cover me, discrete me to some corner etc! Well, i guess he’s trying to minimize his “assets” exposure!

When i first started breastfeeding, i thought I’m gonna have to spend lots of $ to buy breastfeeding friendly baju, but later i learn to bf with normal baju that i wear everyday, of course not a 1 piece dress, but as long there’s a top & bottom, i can pretty much do it. But still can’t do it with normal bra, so nursing bra to me is a must.

angie

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Jul 11

2 days ago in my paed’s clinic, I was feeding Eugene discreetly at a corner, and a couple just walked by, the woman saw that I was feeding my baby and she told the hubby in Mandarin, “don’t look at that woman”, and immediately the hubby looked at me and said, “oh…”, and the wife was mad and said again: “I told you not to look at her!”. And me, I just pretend that nothing had happened. I bet that the hubby would not even notice or bother to look if she had not stopped him.

And this morning, when I brought Eugene to the park, there were an Indian couple with their lovely baby boy. I was breastfeeding Eugene, both of them just approached me and talked to me courteously about the goodness of breastfeeding, and she regretted that she did not, and now the child has lots of problem, and they have to keep on switching milk powder from lactose free to soy based, etc… They are so nice and friendly, and I’m sure my breastfeeding act did not turn the husband on, and I’m sure that the wife has not thought about it at all. It depends on the individual’s perception. (Vivi)

I am not taking sides on whether it is preferable to bfg in public or not. I have done both, many times. I do sometimes got a bit uneasy by moms who just flip open their shirts, sometimes exposing unnecessary part of their body while bfg (I know I am about to be attacked by this statement). But I do believe that bfg is an art. It is not to be done so robustly. It should be done gently, with loving, care & beautifully. I always find that mothers who bfg to look so beautiful & serene while bfg, even when they r bfg in a large crowd. Contented. That’s the word.

(I – an adoptive breastfeeding mom)

I would normally avoid BF in public. If I go shopping and had to bring the baby, I would BF him in the car … make sure he is full before reaching the mall. It’s not so much I “malu”, just felt not so comfy to BF when everyone is staring at you. Some more my baby don’t like to hide under my shirt … he wants open air. Sometimes when having dinner outside and baby wants to BF, I would just move to an empty table, BF baby as though I’m putting baby to sleep.
Faridah

when i go for meals outside…. i usually pick restaurant /decent place so i don’t receive too obvious stares. imagine lifting your shirt in busy hawker place
otherwise, usually people will be amaze but they will be too shy to even look… in fact i think they will turn away in embarrassment. i know we don’t care but after a while they will get used to it. when choosing a place to sit, good idea to sit at the corner or near the wall so when you need to BF, just turn to face the wall to latch her and then i think it’s ok to turn back once her mouth is covering the nipple. i do that all the time and i don’t have problems.
i thought my dad was alright but once when had to attend wedding dinner, he told me not to bring daughter cos not nice BF,,,, i suppose sometimes have to be understanding too
my DH also quiet embarrassed initially and insist we bring the bottle with breast milk/ formula but my daughter just couldn’t wait…so out came the breast… now he is more used to it.
when they ask whether i have enough, i usually reply plenty and also enough to make milo for DH to drink too. ( ps i don’t have plenty but enough to shut them up)

good luck…don’t worry what other say,,, but you need to persevere

MS

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