My Mom's Best
Pregnancy, Parenting & Breastfeeding website with a heart
Home

May 18

Maybe I have gone off topic a little. There really is such a condition as pregnancy blues or pre-natal depression. It is a medical condition and if it is severe, I guess the pregnant mom ought to bring this matter to her ob-gyn attention. In this situation, the world around her is still ‘normal’ but the hormones upset made her think and feel otherwise.

However, there can also be situations where the matter is not related to the pregnancy but probably the problems exist with or without baby/pregnancy. In this case, I guess MMB hasn’t come to the level of marriage counselling yet.
_________________
Lilian

Read more     Comments Off on Post-natal blues – Mothers’ views – Part 6
 

May 16

Thanks for all the sharing. It is so nice to know that there are normal moms out there with healthy and realistic body image.

But i still haven’t quite gotten the answer to my true question, which is are pregnancy worries the second time around any different from the first? When i mentioned weight worries, i meant that i know it is usually more an issue for the first kid. You have all confirmed it! Having had 2 and even 5 kids, i can see weight isn’t an issue at all anymore! (so comforting)

But what about finances, housework? Do these things become areas of contention more than the first time? Ya, men can be elated to have 10 kids, but are they as helpful to massage your feet and back as they did when you carried their firstborn? What is the general experience on this? I know men are not all the same, but generally – i have lived long enough with one and chatted enough with women from other marriages to know that they can be quite similar across the board in many areas. It’s so freaky to agree for a second one and then have him suddenly get too busy at work to help as much as you thought he would… more than one mom i know is wondering how to have a second one when their hubbies can’t seem to get their act together even for the first one!

CELYA

Read more     Comments Off on Post-natal blues – Mothers’ views – Part 5
 

May 14

About the question on whether husbands get less loving with each child, I would say that it has to do with that woman’s self-esteem. Even if she is still 36, 24, 36, (inches lar, not age) she will still have her doubts if she choose to think that she is not measuring up to her husband/friends/publics expectation. For women like these, nothing can help them except themselves. Not Marie France, not botox, not plastic surgery. Do you all get sick of reading those Speaking Up/Dear Thelma letters that say, I am fat, I am black, I am short…….?’ If I am the person answering, I will tell them -even if God gives you thinner body/fairer skin/ taller (whatever they wish for), they will still find something they are not satisfied with.

Sorry, got a bit carried away with self-esteem stuff. Want to know how men feel about getting more and more kids? Read Today’s Parents June issue. I enjoyed knowing what En. Idris feels (his original interview reply was much, much longer) about getting more kids. My conclusion is – men enjoy having lots of kids! Even my very reluctant husband (whom prefer only one kid) dreams of having lots of grandchildren in future!
_________________
Lilian

Read more     Comments Off on Post-natal blues – Mothers’ views – Part 4